The Journey of Parenting: Discovering Yourself Along the Way

 

The Journey of Parenting: Discovering Yourself Along the

Way

The Journey of Parenting: Discovering Yourself Along the

Way

 

Mujahid Ali

 

Everyone aspires to have the greatest parenting possible.Every parent has different ideas when they first become parents. For both ourselves as parents and for our children, we have hopes and dreams. But, there are instances when circumstances prevent us from being the parents we would like to be. Without really knowing why it occurs, we can occasionally feel locked in responses to our kids that we don't enjoy.

 

Our life events mould who we are, just like how our children do. Our opinions on raising kids and parenting come from a variety of sources, including our own parents, relatives, friends, daycare facilities, educational institutions, trained professionals, and the media.

The attitudes and views we have about children, parenting, and families are significantly influenced by the experiences we had growing up in our families of origin.

 

 

Every parent experiences moments when they act or speak to their children in ways that go against their better judgement.I don't want to yell at my kids, but when they press my buttons, I can't help but lose control of myself.Parents frequently feel like they are failing their children, their partner, and themselves during these times.Sometimes parents' emotions can overpower them and make them fail. We can alter how we react to our children by realising the source of these feelings.

 

Our ability to be adaptable and in control of our emotions and behavior is tested by children. If we are anxious, exhausted, furious, or frustrated, we may lose the flexibility in our responses.A "knee-jerk" reaction brought on by our own needs or emotions may occur instead of one that is appropriate for the circumstance. Both the parent and the child may feel alienated from one another as a result, leaving them both feeling hurt, angry, or misunderstood.

 

As parents, we must be conscious of what "pushes our buttons" or acts as a trigger for us. The emotions and behaviours of our children frequently cause us to experience feelings and act in ways that are inappropriate or unhelpful for the circumstances in which you and your child are now involved. In order to respond effectively, we must make an effort to remove our own wants and needs from the child's condition.

 

We can better understand why we think, feel, and behave the way we do by engaging in self-reflection. We can become flexible and adaptive parents by reflecting on ourselves and being more self-aware.